Chifukwa chiyani timachitira nsanje ndi momwe tingalekere

Chifukwa chiyani timachitira nsanje ndi momwe tingalekere

Zomwe zimayambitsa nsanje

Simukudzitsimikizira nokha

Katswiri wazamisala yemwe ali ndi chilolezo Seth Meyers akulemba zifukwa zazikulu zitatu zomwe zimapangitsa kuti anthu azichitira nsanje Amaganiza kuti sali okwanira kuti akope okondedwa awo ndikusunga chidwi chawo pakapita nthawi.

Muyenera kulamulira chilichonse

Mmodzi amadandaula za malo ake m'dziko lachiwiri. Mwina, ngakhale paubwana, munthu anakumana ndi chokumana nacho chowopsya ndipo tsopano akuganiza kuti sangadalire, chifukwa nthawi iliyonse munthu wina angakonde.

Anastasia Popova Psychologist, systemic family psychotherapist wa Leib-Medic Family Medical Center.

Koma zimenezi si nkhawa chabe. Uku ndikuyesa kulamulira zochita za mbali inayo. Kuopa ufulu wa wina ndi kuwupandukira.

Ndinu wokondana kwambiri ndi mnzanu.

Nsanje yosalekeza yopanda maziko ingayambike chifukwa chokondana mopambanitsa, pamene wina sangathe kupatukana ndi mnzake ndikukhala moyo wake wonse.

Ngati mumasokoneza moyo wa bwenzi lanu nthawi zonse, kuletsa kukumana ndi abwenzi ndikuthera nthawi padera, mwayi wowononga ubale ndi waukulu. Palibe cholakwika ndi mwamuna ndi mkazi kukhala ndi zinthu zofanana. Koma aliyense ayeneranso kukhala ndi zokonda zake.

Mumayika zofuna zanu zomwe zaponderezedwa kwa mnzanuyo.

Family psychotherapist Anastasia Popova akunena kuti nsanje ikhoza kubwera chifukwa cha kuwonetsera kwa dziko lanu ndi kupondereza zilakolako za kugonana kwa munthu wina. Popanda kuvomereza tokha, tikufuna kupita kumanzere, pokhapokha tikunena kuti izi ndi satellite.

Muli ndi kuganiza mopambanitsa

Nsanje ikhoza kukhala chifukwa cha kuganiza monyanyira (kokakamiza). Katswiri wa zamaganizo Seth Meyers amakumbukira zifukwa zazikulu zitatu zomwe anthu amachitira nsanje / Psychology Masiku ano nkhani ya wodwala yemwe ankachitira nsanje mabwenzi ake onse maubwenzi. Anawonetsanso zizindikiro zina za matenda okakamiza kwambiri. Pamene mwamuna wake anabwera kunyumba mochedwa, mochedwa, iye sakanakhoza kuvomereza ndi kusadziŵa chimene ndi kumene iye anali kuchita. Chifukwa chake, ndidalemba zomwe zidasokonekera ndikudziganizira ndekha. Ndinachotsa mfundozo m'mutu mwanga, ndipo ndinachita nsanje ndi nkhawa. Iye mwini adapanga malingaliro osokoneza ndi zifukwa zosangalalira akakumana ndi zovuta kwambiri za mtundu uwu wa anthu:.

Komanso, malinga ndi katswiri, nsanje ikhoza kuyambitsidwa ndi chikhalidwe chambiri cha munthu.

Pali chifukwa chenicheni chochitira nsanje

Mwina chifukwa chomveka kwambiri: pali chifukwa chomveka cha nsanje. Mwina izi ndi makalata osadziwika bwino ndi wina kapena wina, osaiwalikabe kusakhulupirika kapena umboni wosatsutsika wa kusakhulupirika.

Momwe mungalekerere nsanje

Landirani ndi kuphunzira maganizo anu

Robert Leahy, Ph.D., pulofesa pa yunivesite ya Yale, pulezidenti wakale wa Association for Behavioral and Cognitive Therapy, Academy of Cognitive Therapy ndi International Association for Cognitive Psychotherapy, akuvomereza kuti Nsanje ndi wakupha: Momwe mungathetsere nsanje yanu. / Psychology Masiku ano pachimake cha nsanje, siyani, exhale ndi kulabadira maganizo anu.

Kodi zimasonyeza chimene chiri kwenikweni? Ngati mukuganiza kuti mnzanuyo ali ndi chidwi ndi munthu wina osati inu, sizikutanthauza kuti ali ndi chidwi. Muyenera kumvetsetsa kuti malingaliro ndi zenizeni ndi zinthu zosiyana.

Kusamvera nsanje

Mkwiyo ndi nkhawa zimatha kuchulukirachulukira ngati mutayamba kumangokhalira kuziganizira. Ndipo muyenera kuvomereza malingaliro anu ndikuwalola kukhala. Simukuyenera kusiya malingaliro anu, koma kutenga njira yowonetsetsa kuti muwone momwe mukumvera kungathandize kuchepetsa.

Dziwani kuti kusatsimikizika ndi gawo la ubale uliwonse

Tikuyang'ana motsimikiza: Ndiyenera kudziwa kuti sakukondani kapena ndikufuna kudziwa kuti sitidzasiyana ndipo tidzakhala limodzi. Dr. Leahy akulemba kuti ena ali okonzeka kuthetsa chibwenzi, m'malingaliro awo, wina atero.

Robert Leahy

Kusatsimikizika, gawo la moyo. Izi ndi zomwe sitingachite nazo chilichonse.

Simungadziwe ngati mnzanuyo akusiyani kapena ayi. Koma ndi zoneneza zanu ndi kudzudzula kwanu, mukhoza kupanga uneneri wodzikwaniritsa.

Mvetserani malingaliro anu

Nsanje ikhoza kuyambitsidwa ndi zikhulupiriro zopanda pake: maubwenzi akale a wokondedwa akuwopseza mgwirizano wanu, mulibe kanthu koti mungapereke kwa mnzanuyo, ubalewu udzabwereza zochitika zoipa ndi wina kapena wina. Nthawi zambiri izi sizimangokhala zongopeka zomwe zilibe chochita ndi zenizeni.

Pezani njira zabwino zomangira maubwenzi

M’malo modalira nsanje, pezani njira ina yopangira mgwirizanowo kukhala wosungika, akulangiza motero Robert Leahy. Mwachitsanzo, tcherani khutu pamene mnzanuyo akuchita zabwino, yamikirani wina ndi mnzake, peŵani kudzudzula kapena kunena mawu achipongwe, kapena lembani ndandanda ya zinthu zosavuta ndi zokondweretsa kuchita zimene zingasangalatse aliyense wa inu.

Dzisamalire

Tisaiwale za chitukuko chathu. Pezani zosangalatsa, masewera olimbitsa thupi, kapena pitani ku kalasi ya yoga. Osadzikaniza nokha ndi wokondedwa wanu ufulu ndi malo anu.

Sonyezani chiyamikiro m’malo mwa nsanje

Pamlingo wakutiwakuti, nsanje m’chibwenzi ndi yachibadwa. Koma bola ngati chiwalimbitsa, ndipo sichiwaononga.

Anastasia Popova

Ndizofunikira kukumbukira kuti kupatula ine, chozizwitsa chozizwitsa, mnzako m'moyo ali ndi anthu ena ambiri omwe angatenge malo anga. Ndipo kuti iye nthawi yomweyo amasankha ndikukonda ine, osati wina.

Njira yabwino yochitira nsanje, kuyamikira posankha inu, pokhala pamodzi. Sizingatheke kupulumutsa ubale mothandizidwa ndi nsanje, koma ndi kuyamikira zingatheke.

Muzikhulupirirana

Oleg Ivanov Psychologist, katswiri wa mikangano, wamkulu wa Center for Settlement of Social Conflicts.

Nsanje imathetsedwa mwa kukhulupirirana. Ngati simukhulupirira mnzanuyo, muyenera kulankhula naye za izo.

Iye mwina sangayerekeze n’komwe za zokumana nazo zanu ndi kusadziŵa chimene khalidwe lake limapereka zifukwa kaamba ka zimenezo.

Landirani zomwe zikuchitika ndikutanthauziranso ubalewo

Izi zimagwiranso ntchito pazochitika zomwe pali zifukwa zomveka zokayikira kukhulupirika kwa wokondedwa.

Anastasia Popova

Nsanje ikhoza kukhala yowona mtima komanso yodziwika bwino komanso kukhala ndi zifukwa zenizeni. Ndiye simuyenera kuchipondereza, koma moona mtima kuwona chowonadi chosasangalatsa.

Munthawi imeneyi, ndikofunikira kusankha zomwe mungachite osati ndi nsanje, koma ndi ubale wonse.

Vutoli litha kuthetsedwa. Koma, ngati atakhala mozama ndipo adakhazikika paubwana, ndi bwino kuthetsa vutoli ndi katswiri. Nsanje ikhoza kukhala yowopsa komanso yowononga ubale wanu, musamayinyalanyaze.