Momwe mungavomereze ndikusiya zakale zanu

Momwe mungavomereze ndikusiya zakale zanu

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Osalimbana ndi zokhumudwitsa ndi zowawa

Nthawi zambiri timayang'ana kunja kuti tipeze mayankho a mafunso athu: m'mabuku ndi ma podikasiti, pamaphunziro ndi masemina, ndi alangizi ndi aphunzitsi auzimu. Koma izi sizikuthandizani nthawi zonse kumvetsetsa zokhumba zanu, ndipo posakhalitsa muyenera kuyang'ana mkati mwanu.

Potero, zokhumudwitsa ndi zikumbukiro zowawa mosapeŵeka zidzawonekera. Mukufuna kuwathawa, koma muyenera kuwayang'ana kumaso. Ndipo mudzawona chododometsa chotere: mukamalimbana ndi zowawa, mumapatsa mphamvu. Ndipo mukadzasiya kulimbana kumeneku, kumakhala kosavuta.

Izi ndizovuta. Kufunika kodzipereka kumatsutsana ndi zonse zomwe timaphunzitsidwa nthawi zonse: limbikira, kukankha, kupirira, kupambana. Koma tikasiya, timapeza mtendere ndi chilimbikitso. Ndipo izi sizili zofanana ndi kusiya ntchito ndi kugwa mphwayi.

Ndipo mutha kukhala ndi moyo watanthauzo mu mkhalidwe uwu waufulu ndi kudziwonetsera nokha popanda kulungamitsidwa. Zindikirani kuti kukhumudwa ndi zowawa ndi gawo lachibadwa la moyo. Osawaopa. Inde, mutha kusweka mtima, mutha kuchotsedwa ntchito, ntchito yanu yolenga ikhoza kulephera.

Koma zimene mukuphunzira m’njira zidzakuthandizani kukula ndi kukhala munthu wosiyana. Njira yokhayo yopewera kukhumudwitsidwa ndiyo kusadziika pangozi. Koma udzakhala moyo wochepa kwambiri.

Pezani Chinachake Chabwino M'mbuyomu

Nthawi zambiri, tikamakumbukira zinthu zoipa zimene zinatichitikira m’mbuyomo, monga ngati ubwenzi umene sunayende bwino kapena ntchito imene inatha, timangoganizira zoipa ndipo sitiona zabwino. Timanyamula kusagwirizana uku ndi ife, ndipo tsogolo limakhala lofanana ndi zakale. Koma ngati muvomereza zomwe zidachitika ndikuphunzirapo, mphamvu zake pa inu zidzatha.

Mwachitsanzo, mabuku opereka chithandizo amakulangizani kuti mulembe zabwino za munthu aliyense amene anakutayani. Ndipo uphungu umenewu ungagwiritsidwe ntchito pazochitika zilizonse zowawa. Lembani zabwino zomwe mwaphunzira pazochitikazo, zomwe mwaphunzira, zomwe mwaphunzira za inu nokha. Ndipo mudzaona kuti, mosasamala kanthu za ululu, anthu ozungulira amatipatsa mphatso zodabwitsa.

Tikavomereza mkhalidwe wovuta kapena kusiya kukwiyira munthu amene watikhumudwitsa, zokumana nazo zoipa zimataya mphamvu pa ife ndi tsogolo lathu.

Dzithandizeni kusintha

Posiya zakale, mumapanga danga la tsogolo latsopano. Ndipo pomamatira ku kunyalanyaza zakale, mosakayika mudzabwereza zolakwa zomwezo. Ndikumvetsetsa kuti muzochita zonsezi ndizovuta kwambiri kuposa mawu. Makamaka pamene mwachira ku ululu kapena mukuyesera kuthana ndi namondwe m'moyo wanu. Chifukwa chake, ndikupatsani malangizo omwe angandithandize:

  • Phunzirani kukhala oyamikira.Izi sizidzathetsa mavuto onse, koma zidzathandiza kusintha maganizo. Mudzaona zinthu zabwino m’moyo zimene mumaziona mopepuka.
  • Sinthani malo anu.Zimakhudza kwambiri malingaliro ndi khalidwe. Sikoyenera kuwotcha chilichonse chokhudzana ndi zakale (ngakhale nthawi zina mumafuna) .Lolani malo anu kukhala ngati zonse zomwe mukufuna kukhala, osati zomwe mudali kale.
  • Lankhulani ndi dokotala.Zikuwoneka kwa ine kuti izi ziyenera kuchitika kamodzi pa moyo. Katswiri wa zamaganizo ndi mphunzitsi, osati thupi lokha, koma la malingaliro. Ikhoza kukuthandizani kuwona machitidwe obwerezabwereza m'moyo wanu. Ndipo iyenso ndi cholinga, akhoza kuuzidwa za chirichonse, podziwa kuti iye sadzaweruza.
  • Dzisamalire.Dzisangalatseni ndi chinthu chosangalatsa kuti mutseke mutu umodzi wamoyo wanu ndikuyamba wina. Ndipo nthawi zonse muzisamalira mtendere wanu wamaganizo. Mwachitsanzo, pita kukachita masewera, kuyenda, kuyamba zosangalatsa zatsopano.

Tangoganizirani mwayi umene ungakutsegulireni

Chochitika chilichonse chimakhala ndi zochitika zitatu:

  • Momwe timaganizira.
  • Umo uli tsopano.
  • Yemwe akhoza kukhala.

Ngati zenizeni sizikugwirizana ndi zomwe tikuganiza, timakhumudwa. Timadzitsekera kuzinthu zina zonse ndikuyesera kukwaniritsa zomwe tikuyembekezera zomwe sizinachitike. Komabe, muzochitika zotere, ndikofunikira kuvomereza zochitika zachitatu, kusatsimikizika. Nthawi zambiri timagwirizanitsa ndi mantha, nkhawa, ndi mantha athu aakulu. Ndipo sitiona zinthu zodabwitsa zimene zingachitikenso.

Ndimakumbukira momwe zinkawonekera kwa ine kuti ndinali ndi udindo woopsa ponena za ntchito: ndinamaliza maphunziro a yunivesite pakati pa mavuto a zachuma padziko lonse, sindinapeze malo pambuyo pa maphunziro a chilimwe. Koma izi ndi zomwe zidandikakamiza kuti ndiyambe zomwe pambuyo pake zidakhala maziko a podcast yanga.

Ndinayamba kulemba ngati munthu wogwira ntchito pawokha, koma mu 2013 anthu omwe ndimagwira nawo ntchito anandikaniza. Ndinamasula nthawi, ndipo posakhalitsa ndinafalitsa buku langa loyamba ndekha. Inakhala yogulitsidwa kwambiri, ndipo pamapeto pake ndinalandira mwayi kwa wofalitsa.

Chifukwa cha zochitikazi, ndinamasuka ndi ntchito yomwe muyenera kulemba zomwe simukuzisamala. Inde, poyamba, kutembenuka koteroko kumakhala kokhumudwitsa komanso kochititsa mantha. Koma yesani kuwaona ngati mwayi, osati wotayika.